DANGERS OF PREMARITAL SEX
Being message delivered at Christ
Peoples Assembly Singles Seminar on Sunday 9th October 2016 by Rev Mrs Mary
Oluwatunbi at Mushin branch, Lagos.
Bible Text:
1Cor6:18, Heb13:4, 2Sam13:1-29, Gen34:1-31, 2Tim2:22
INTRODUCTION
Sex
is ordained of God for married couple (male + female) for mutual satisfaction,
great pleasure, fulfillment, strengthening bond of unity and intimacy in
marriage, to help in creating a deep companionship with one’s spouse and for
procreation. Gen1:28, ICor7:1-3
‘Sex
is a powerful force that can destroy if not used properly. Like atomic power,
sex is the most powerful creative force given to man. When atomic power is used correctly it can
create boundless energy; when it is used in the wrong way it destroys life. Sex is the same kind of powerful force’.
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WHAT
IS PREMARITAL SEX?
Premarital
sex is sexual relation before marriage i.e all sexual relations a person had
before legal marriage which has grave and damaging consequences. A lot of perversion is going on in the world
today, premarital sex can take the form of a, Incest: sexual relations between
relatives especially immediate family members and first cousins. b,Masturbation:Manual
erotic stimulation of the genitals or other erotic regions often to orgasm
either by oneself or a partner.c,Homosexuality:The state of being sexually and
romantically attracted primarily or exclusively to persons of the same sex i.e.
sexual activity with a person of the same sex.d,Lesbianism:Female
homosexuality:the state ( of a woman) of being attracted to the other women.e,Bestiality:Sexual
activity between a human and another species.f,Real sex.(see Leviticus 18:6,9
The
above are some of the reasons God gave up the people and destroyed the world in
time of Noah and destroyed Sodom and Gomorrah with fire and brimstone.
To
our young ones, don’t destroy your future by engaging in premarital sex or
being involved in any form of sexual perversion. By playing with this powerful force outside
the bounds of marriage destroys you and those close to you. ‘Give not thy
strength unto women nor thy way to that which destroyeth kings’. Pro 31:3. You are made kings and priests unto God. Your future is bright and precious, you are our
future, the future of the family, church and nation; direct the strength of
your youth to positive cause, that which builds and not that which destroys.
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DANGERS
OF PREMARITAL SEX Col3:5,6, 2Tim2:22
It
is both in the physical and in the spiritual
2.10 Physical Dangers of Premarital Sex
· Declining
academic performance, deteriorating social relationship with family and
friends. The young ones are immature and
cannot deal with the explosive sex drive which tend to dominate their life.
· Abruption
of career, if the girl gets pregnant most of the time, the male partner will
not claim responsibility
· Premature
parenthood
· Risk
of abortion which may lead to diseases, death and other complications. Unwanted
pregnancy
· Rejection
by parents and the male partner, which can lead to abandonment and depression
· There
are cases of young girls throwing or abandoning the unwanted babies in the
gutter, dustbins and other public places.
Some sell the babies secretly,some taken to Motherly homes and grand
mothers because they are not prepared for / matured for motherhood.
· Risk
of shame e.g Tamar 2Samuel 13:13,17-19.Dinah Gen 34:2,5.Even risk of death of
the male partner if family of the female retaliate e.g Amnon,he was killed by
the brother of Tamar for defiling his sister.2 Samuel 13:28-29.
· Risk
of depression 2Cor12:21 and suffering disappointment if either partner leaves
· Risk
of having illegitimate children which can trouble your home when you eventually
settle later.
· Risk
of sexual dysfunction getting incurable diseases STD, herpes veneral diseases
,HIV/AIDS.It can bring loss of fertility.Infertility experts estimate that 80%
of today’s infertility is due to veneral diseases contracted before they
married.
· It
kills your vision, it is a destroyer of destiny
· Majority
of the ladies cannot enjoy a fulfilling sex outside the bond of marriage as
this is done mostly in hidden places.
There is fear of being caught, fear of pregnancy and feeling of guilt
bringing stress and worry to the ladies.
· You
will be hurt by the unpleasant memories when you marry- broken relationships
that involved premarital sex. Such
strong unpleasant memories can last a long time except God intervenes in your
case.
2:20 SPIRITUAL DANGERS OF
PREMARITAL SEX
Ø It
is sin against God, breaking God’s commandment. 1Thess4:3. Premarital sex is
sin of fornication which brings the wrath of God. Colossians 3:5,6. Twenty three thousand people died in the
wilderness in one day due to immorality 1Cor10:8.
Ø
No fornicator will enter the kingdom of God
1Cor6:9
Ø
The penalty of fornication is death.
Deut23:20,21. Fornication leads to more sin
like abortion which is murder
Ø
Risk of damaging your Christian testimony
permanently and lost relationship except you repent.
Ø
Risk of damaging the destiny of your future
marriage. Early sexual experience is
linked with some peoples dissatisfaction in their present marriages,
unhappiness with level of sexual intimacy and the prevalence of low self-
esteem.
Ø
Risk of placing your future children in
spiritual harm’s way.(they can become possessed)
Ø
It creates an ungodly soul tie.Sex is more
than just a physical act, it is also a spiritual encounter Mk10:6-9, a
physiological bonding.It involves blood.
Premarital sex short circuits the emotional bonding experience.
Ø
It fragmentize the soul, part of the heart
or soul have been given to the person you have sex with. It can affect your marriage in future.
Ø
It passes demon to you.Demons and their host
gain entrance into a person’s body through premarital sex. Don’t be joined to
an harlot. 1Cor6:16.It can bring curse especially if later the person is jilted
or disappointed. It is sin against your
own body 1Cor6:18.
Ø
It is lust,don’t allow the spirit of Amnon
in your life.2 Samuel 13:2,12-15 It make
you loose confidence, making the relationship with the family unstable, telling
all kinds of lies in order to escape
Ø Risk
of shame and disobeying God and letting Satan get a foothold of you, damaging
your precious future 1Cor5:1,2 Heb13:4
3.00 PREVENTING AND
OVERCOMING SEXUAL TEMPTATIONS Ecc12:1, 1Tim5:2, 22, 1Thess5:22, 23, Gen39:12,
Pro1:10, 7:1-5, 6:27-29
a. Be
genuinely born again John3:3, 1Cor5:17
b.
Have an ongoing and developing relationship
with Jesus Christ.1Peter 2:2,2Peter 3:18;John 15:4
c.
Have a healthy productive faith in God,build
yourself with the word of God,prayers and fellowship on regular basis.
d.
Put on the whole armour of God.Ephesians
6:11
e.
Set your priorities right, value righteous
life, honesty and uprightness.1King 9:4
f.
Keep yourself pure, flee fornication. Joseph fled from Potiphar’s wife. Make up your mind to live a pure life.1Timothy
5:22,1Corinthians 6:18.
g.
Stop clustering and mingling around opposite
sex.1 Tim 5:2
h.
Abstinence is the sure proof to avoid
dangers of premarital sex.1 Peter 1:15,16
i.
Be careful of the friends you keep, dissociate
yourself from immoral ungodly, peer group.1 Cor 15:33
j.
Beware of places you go, type of film/video
you watch, books you read, sites you go on the internet.Luke 6:45.
k.
Don’t be idle, get yourself involved in
positive things. Join a subgroup in the
Church. Don’t be alone with opposite sex
in secret places.Pro 22:29
l.
Be careful what you drink – refrain from
alcohol, don’t get involved in drugs.Proverbs 20:1
m.
Make the word of God, the bible your friend
Josh1:8 and close companion, be very prayerful.Luke 18:1
n. Be
careful what you wear, don’t expose your sensitive parts. Cover up, dress appropriately and
responsibly,never wear anything too. How
you sit matters as ladies. Guard your
mind, heart and body in a sex saturated world.Rev 3:18,1 Timothy 2:9,10
3.20 HOPE AND RESTORATION
AFTER PREMARITAL SEX. Proverbs 28:13
What
if you are guilty of sexual sin, lost your virginity either before you know the
Lord or were careless or seduced? For
there is hope of a tree if it be cut down that it will sprout again and that
the tender branch thereof will not cease Job14:7
There
should be genuine sorrow for sin, ask God for forgiveness 1Jh1:9,
Psa103:12. Ask God for grace to go and
sin no more, no sin is beyond the reach of the blood of Jesus. Ask God for restoration Joel 2:25. Get renewed in the Lord. Colossians 3:10. Abstain from all appearances of evil 1Thessalonians
5:22
3.30 COUNSELS Proverbs
11:14,15:22
Virginity
is not archaic neither is it old school.
Don’t be deceived. Virginity is
to be given to the most important person in your life, the person you committed
yourself to stay with forever in marriage and that in marriage. Your virginity is the most precious thing you
have to give to your spouse. Once you
loose it, nothing in the world can bring it back. Don’t lose something so precious in a
thoughtless way. True love waits.
Rev
Samuel O. Oluwatunbi in his House of Treasures devotionals said, ‘Suggestive
looks, pecking and necking, avoidable or let us call it illegal touching,holdings
that does not rule out intentions and embarrassing embracing all drive into
danger zone of regrets. Relate with all
purity. That is the standard to be at
peace with God and ridicule satan’ House of Treasures 28/9/16
There
is a way which seemeth right unto man but the end thereof are the ways of death
Pro14:12
CONCLUSION
‘And
now brethren (our children in Christ Peoples Assembly) I commend you to God and
to the word of his grace, which is able to build you up and to give you an
inheritance among all them which are sanctified’ Acts20:32
Your
destiny shall not be hijacked by the enemy.
You shall be mighty upon the earth in the mighty name of Jesus.
Remain blessed!!!
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